Can a man who is divorced and/or remarried be an elder? The survey was not random, as people were contacted by e-mail and on Facebook and asked to participate and to spread the word among their LDS family and friends. Of those who were aware, thirty percent had learned from a family member while almost ten percent learned from sources critical of the Church.39. Foster, Like Two Crazy Aunts in the Attic.. Rather than plural marriage being noticeably absent from Church publications, it should be adequately discussed. She surely was one of the many noble women who have lived in the latter days (Elder Dallin H. Oaks, "What are Prophets and Apostles: Elder Dallin H. Oaks,"lds.org). Sex with teenage wives.48. My unhappy family history will not be passed on" (Elder David S. Baxter, "Finding Hope in a Troubled Family," August 2015 New Era). Divorced LDS women long have been required to obtain a clearance from the First Presidency before being sealed to a second husband. They did everything they could to raise us the right way" (Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, "Elder Quentin L. Cook: A Willing Heart and Mind", April 2008Ensign). However, Elder Baxter's family situation was still difficult. The only safe path through a divorce is to remain true to the gospel. 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Indeed, in the minds of [Page 75]many people, 19th-century Mormon polygamy defines western polygamy.69 Accepting that the twain are inseparable does not mean the Church must acquiesce to the negative stereotyping used by its critics. It isnt surprising that modern members are ignorant of Mormon plural marriage and the context in which it was practiced, since the LDS Church has, in many ways, downplayed and even ignored its own history. !45 Another womans exit letter from the Church had a series of accusatory questions including, Why did Smith marry and have sex with 11 women who were married to other men at the same time, some of whom he sent away on missions before marrying their wives? Some noted that they asked for a break because of the new demands they faced after their divorce. There is much to appreciate about the honesty and vulnerability of the responses that were shared. These are truly touching and delicate experiences that members of the Church endured as they divorced. You'll also like: How to Talk to Children About Temple Covenants After a Divorce Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible. Even more tragically, accidental discovery and/or inadequate teachings about the Churchs history and relationship to plural marriage have caused crises of faith which have alienated members of the Church and, in many cases, led to their eventual departure from the faith. Elder David S. Baxter, a general authority of the Seventy, found the gospel at a critical time in his life. LDS For more information showing Josephs Smiths marriages to teenage wives were not out of the cultural and social norm of his time, see Joseph Smith/Polygamy/Marriages to Young Women, FairMormon Answers, accessed February 22, 2014, http://en.fairmormon.org/Joseph_Smith/Polygamy/Marriages_to_young_women. This website noted Mary Elizabeth Rollins Lightner married Joseph Smith in 1842 when she was seven months pregnant and queried whether the child was Adam Lightners or Joseph Smiths. They are subject to its penalties. In the Church, we value family relationships so much (rightly so) that many dont know how to deal with divorce because it seems incongruent with the foundation of the Church, which is the family. I worry that discomfort with the situation unnecessarily impacts many from engaging in providing needed support.. At the very least, it might help dispel the popular [Page 73]perception that plural marriage revolved around sexualityand not only sexuality, but the dominance of male sexuality. All who have been through divorce know the pain and need the healing power and hope that come from the Atonement. Surprisingly, only 4% of the respondents did not know he had plural wives. The Browns then moved to Las Vegas, where they continue to produce their show.12 Not to be outdone, the Darger family [Page 51]published Love Times Three: Our True Story of a Polygamous Marriage.13 They took to the talk show circuit to describe their lifestyle and went so far as to suggest they were the inspiration for the family on Big Love. Given the Dargers soap opera adventures, this might be a rather dubious honor. 12 apostles during Old Testament times Joseph Smith married other mens wives while they were still married to their husbands, Mormon Think, accessed October 12, 2011, http://mormonthink.com/joseph-smith-polygamy.htm#other. Often times in our anxiety to live Gods commandments, we focus on everything we should avoid to remain righteous. Foster, Like Two Crazy Aunts in the Attic., 31. In fact, Elder Bednar said in his April 2012 general conference talk that some members in his ward did not know his father was not a member because he regularly attending Church meetings with his family and helped with various Church activities. Lets dive into the New Testament and see what we can learn about the efforts of the original apostles to maintain a full quorum. TRUTH: Scripture shows that God gives permission for divorce. Joseph Perkins, Will Same-Sex Marriage Lead to Legalized Polygamy, Christian Post, October 8, 2011, accessed October 8, 2011, http://www.christianpost.com/news/will-same-sex-marriage-lead-to-legalized-polygamy-57640/. Many others had a different reason for their change in calling. One woman got an angry look on her face and exclaimed, He did not! NEW POLICY ANNOUNCED FOR DIVORCED LDS This holds true whether they were married civilly or in a temple. They need the healing power and hope that come from the Atonement of Jesus Christ. For example, the Public Affairs Department of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has, over the years, issued a number of press releases explaining that the Church does not practice or allow plural marriage and has differentiated between the LDS Church and fundamentalist Mormons.25 There have also been comments by Church leaders. 9. Not everyone grows up in an "ideal" family situation. Nate Oman on Jeffs, August 25, 2011. [They] could have helped me realize that there is more to being a member of the Church [than] being in a traditional families are forever kind of family., [Acknowledge] me as a person. Hales expands this argument about Joseph Smiths polyandrous marriages in his three volume work titled, Joseph Smiths Polygamy (Salt Lake City, Utah: Greg Kofford Books, 2013). (That doesn't mean the policy doesn't exist, but that I've never seen it). Another active Latter-day Saint responded: Are you suggesting that what is making you pleased is the denial of relationships in the Celestial Kingdom? I felt like I was contagious, and I think that they thought I was!, Church is a family-orientated organization, and when your family splits, it is difficult to find your place., A simple smile or hello . 11. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints permits divorce, but the Church's focus on happy, sound, and even eternal families elevates marriage to a sacred covenant not to be lightly dissolved. Of divorce, LDS Prophet Gordon B. Hinckley said, There is now and again a legitimate cause for divorce. Unfortunately, such an outcome is not the case for Latter-day Saints and their polygamous history. Is that true? I thought he was joking. 27. Divorce was more prevalent in the early Church. "The train stopped, my mother went out and tried to get food," President Uchtdorf told KUTV. Eternal plural marriage would be in the future, and, for some Latter-day Saint women, that makes it a very dark future. One of the members of a private e-mail group of faithful Latter-day Saints wrote, EVERYTHING that Correlation has produced, since its inception, indicates the Church is running away from polygamy as fast as it can.41, For many active and disaffected members of the Church, certain aspects of Joseph Smiths polygamy have been difficult to understand or accept. Details regarding this matter have been communicated to stake and mission presidents.". Whether or not the particular suggestions in this essay are adopted, the goal of leaders and defenders of the Church should be to aim for a more knowledgeable membership who thereby exhibit less discomfort and embarrassment about the Churchs past relationship to plural marriage. I need you home to baptize me.". From the 1840s to the present, anti-Mormon literature has accused Church leaders and members of immorality and lasciviousness, [Page 48]with suggestions that Joseph Smith started plural marriage to cover-up his own adulterous affairs.6 The 1840s saw some early purveyors of the lustful and lascivious stereotype in the supposed insider exposs of John C. Bennett and the Van Dusens.7 Ironically, some of these clichd stereotypes are still being used today. A manual focused on the present-day application of doctrine might understandably devote little attention to plural marriage, but complete silence may heighten the sense that we are ashamed and that there is actually something to hide.29, [Page 57]I remember being about 15 or 16 years old and visiting Brigham Youngs Winter Home in St. George. After all, both the LDS Church and Fundamentalist Mormons share common roots and attributes. The only safe path through a divorce is to remain true to the gospel. i was having a discussion with a friend and he said one of the 12 apostles of the LDS church had been divorced, i told him from what i know about t But I've had the experience of providing all those ordinances for my dad," Elder Bednar said, years after his family was sealed for eternity in the temple. 4. The Manifesto and the End of Plural Marriage Can Mormons Divorce if They Were Married in a Temple? - Learn Divorce can be an ugly, painful experience that leaves all involved angry, confused, and embarrassed. In 1998, the late LDS president Gordon B. Hinckley proclaimed, I wish to state categorically that this Church has nothing whatever to do with those practicing polygamy. No one is entirely immune to difficult family situations like these, including the general authorities of the Church. Pauline Christians can continue to have faith in a celibate savior who is divorced from his family, his people and his times. The practice suffered a slow, difficult death as the Church and its members came to terms with the demise of the practice and yet continued their efforts to keep what they regarded as a sacred principle alive. Beyond an overall dislike for plural marriage expressed by those who had negative views, there were several factors that seemed to particularly distress them. Valerie Hudson, A Reconciliation of Polygamy, presentation at the 2011 FAIR Conference, notes in possession of author. Men tend to be action oriented, so they may be less inclined to seek counseling and instead bury their feelings by working long hours or immersing themselves in a hobby. As interesting as the survey statistics were, the most fascinating parts of the survey data were the respondent comments. For that matter, it may not even be as important to Saints residing in the eastern parts of Canada and the United States as it is to those residing in the western United States. Unfortunately, she was not alone in being shocked to learn Joseph Smith had plural wives. I told them I would be glad to answer any question they had. Another shared a similar experience: They stopped inviting me to every activity, shopping trip, dinners, everything. Such an approach was expressed by this man I counseled: I still have a hard time grasping the concept that Im a divorced man, but I am. This and other facts about plural marriage need to be understood by Latter-day Saints, so information and specific detail regarding the theology and practice of plural marriage need to be provided at the appropriate time and place. 8. Claire, e-mail correspondence, October 4, 2011. Joseph Walker, Recent Events Highlight Confusion of Polygamy, Deseret News, August 6, 2011, accessed August 7, 2011, https://www.deseret.com/2011/8/6/20208124/recent-events-highlight-confusion-of-polygamy. This is, in Copyright 2023 Deseret News Publishing Company. By the end of these few decades, a number of members had doctrinally and physically separated themselves from the body of the Church because they continued to teach and practice plural marriage. Converts reactions varied, and for some the concept was difficult to accept. LDS Yet when he observed Elder Scott and his wife, he noticed they seemed to have a sense of peace that he did not. LDS church have 15 apostles if only No, Divorce currently disqualifies a man from becoming a Bishop, Stake President, Seventy, Apostle or Prophet. Finding out Joseph Smith practiced was a shockas I had not learned this in Church. A whole lesson about Doctrine and Covenants 132 and not one mention of plural marriage? Because of plural marriages inherent sexual implications, it is natural there would be some discomfort and embarrassment. That healing power and that hope are there for them and also for their children.. The ultimate purpose of all we teach is to unite parents and children in faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, that they are happy at home, sealed in an eternal marriage.1 In spite of this inspired teaching from President BoydK. Packer, President of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, divorces take place. It should be noted that while most of the sanctioned post-Manifesto plural marriages were performed outside of the United States, some were performed within U.S. borders. Even so, 12 other countries were represented, most from European countries.34, Over 47% of survey respondents heard about polygamy as a child while another 39% heard about it as teenagers, for a total of over 86% learning about plural marriage while in their childhood or youth. This is particularly true if they have been faithful in Church activity and have prayed fervently for a resolution to marital problems. The mother said she divorced her husband, who later re-married. Is excommunication generally invoked for adultery and who From the time of its introduction, plural marriage has been wrapped in controversy. I should have clarified exactly what my husband meant prior to posting. You can post now and register later. LDS Would a menace make a good Bishop? . When Jesus Christ came to earth, He organized His church. FinancialSpecial5787 1 yr. ago. Your previous content has been restored. Most of these people, however, are just trying to find a way to react to something that is so contrary to accepted marriage patterns. Heres how a new speaker series can help you find it: Temples are some of the most beautiful places on earth, but the work that takes place inside of them is what makes them sacred. The Church has done a good job of differentiating itself from its Fundamentalist relatives, particularly with renegade groups like the FLDS, who have exemplified the fact that while there are similarities, there are many more differences. I am not sure that those that faithfully practiced it many years ago would be with that conclusiondo you? The top reason for a change in calling was relocation. Stephen C. Taysom, A Uniform and Common Recollection: Joseph Smiths Legacy, Polygamy, and the Creation of Mormon Public Memory, 1852 2002, Dialogue: A Journal of Mormon Thought 35/3 (Fall 2002): 136. However, LDS members can only have one living, legal spouse while on earth. When a couple legally divorce, the temple marriage/sealing is effectively nullified, because the couple is no longer together and do not wish to be. In December 2013, the LDS Church published an essay titled, Plural Marriage and Families in Early Utah, accessed January 20, 2014, https://churchofjesuschrist.org/topics/plural-marriage-and-families-in-early-utah?lang=eng.

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